Jealousy is one of the reasons why relationships fail. That’s because, relationships of any kind requires trust from both parties in order to work. And being jealous shows that there is a lack of trust for the other person. Because of jealousy you fight over small things. You get mad easily and become really suspicious. I have to admit that I’ve been a jealous girlfriend in my past relationship as well. And yes, it wasn’t exactly a happy experience, the relationship became unhealthy and we eventually broke up. I have learned my lesson, and now in my present relationship, I think it’s safe to say that I have changed a bit. So I have here a few tips to help you overcome that jealousy as well.
Be confident about yourself
Jealousy can be caused by being insecure and having low self esteem. Due to your lack of confidence, you think that you don’t deserve to be loved and that your partner can easily find someone better than you. This makes you feel like whenever a girl comes near your man, he will immediately forget about you. You should try to boost your confidence a bit. Try to love yourself and believe that you are beautiful and that you are worthy of being loved.
Be confident about your man
It’s very important that you trust your man with all your heart. I mean, you shouldn’t be committing yourself to someone you couldn’t trust. You have to believe in him and make him feel it. Because it actually helps when they know that you trust them. Also, I believe that the more you doubt on someone’s faithfulness to you, the more likely they will be unfaithful.
Don’t sweat about it
People say that a woman’s instinct is always right, but that doesn’t mean that your hunch about your guy cheating on you is entirely true. You shouldn’t think that way unless you have proof. However, that lack of proof does not give you the right to go all CSI on your guy either. I know plenty of girls who do this. They spy on their guy, track his whereabouts every second of the day, check out all his social media sites, and interrogate all his friends about him. Well, I’m telling you, you’re just wasting your time and effort. Besides, you will only make your guy feel suffocated. And you’ll only end up fighting about it.
Let him have fun
Even if you two are in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that you should be together all the time. He has a life of his own and you shouldn’t take that away from him. If he wants to go out with his friends, or go to a party then let him. He will surely meet other girls there, but that doesn’t mean he will instantly fall in love with them. Letting him go out without you will make him feel that you really trust him and that might make him fall in love with you even more.
Go out and have fun as well
The best way to stop stressing out about whether your boyfriend is being faithful to you or not is to go out and have fun without him. Plan a get together for you and your girlfriends, go to a party in your neighborhood, or you can even go shopping on your own (this works for me most of the time! LOL!). This way you can put your attention to other things and you’ll be occupied enough to stop worrying about your guy too much.
Stop comparing your man to other guys
Especially with your exes. If you have been cheated upon on your past relationships, or you just know someone who is a cheater, stop comparing your man to them. Not all men are cheaters. YES, there are men out there who are faithful and loyal to their partners, and your guy might be one of them. Just trust him enough and stop judging him based on what you think you know about men.
Try to have an open mind
Sometimes we don’t see things the way they really are. Misinterpretation can be a cause of jealousy especially if you react immediately to what you saw without contemplating about it first. Let’s say when you see your guy talking animatedly to another girl, would you go mad and confront him about it? If yes, then that’s probably way too much of a reaction because chances are, that girl is just a friend he hasn’t seen in a while, or she might be a relative you haven’t met yet (it happens you know!). So the next time you see him talking to another girl, just relax and don’t make a fuss about it, you can always ask him later to introduce you to her and who knows, maybe you’ll be friends too.
Talk to each other about how you feel
There are instances where you really feel uncomfortable about a situation. In this case, you can approach him and tell him how you feel. Be honest and tell him exactly what’s in your mind. But that doesn’t mean that you should get mad and yell at him or something. Just stay calm, tell him that you’re trying to understand the situation, and maybe he can help by explaining it to you.